Men’s Counselling

Men’s counselling is our way of helping men living in Singapore rise above life’s challenges by putting an end to suppressing their emotions and tackling issues that they are generally afraid to express out loud.

Men’s lives may be packed with a mixture of family responsibilities, career aspirations and personal goals that may conflict, causing stress, anxiety and/or depression. However, a study by researchers at the Institute of Mental Health (IMH) in 2019 demonstrated that men are simply not coming forward to get diagnosed or discuss their struggles due to traditional norms.

Traditional gender norms have forced society, particularly men, to believe they are not allowed to express any emotional pain or suffering. Instead, they are told to “man up” and suppress or trivialise their struggles. Society has highly raved the idea that a “real man” must always be stoic, tough and fearless. This toxic masculinity has led many men to construe therapy as a sign of weakness. As a result, many men choose to suffer in silence instead of seeking help, exacerbating their problems. If you are one of many trapped in this unhealthy thinking, you may start to feel increasingly overwhelmed and lonely or develop harmful coping mechanisms. Accepting you need help to work on your mental health shows strength, not weakness.

Issues Faced By Men

As a man, there may be several issues that you may be struggling with, whether or not you express them out loud. Some of these issues may include:

• Relationship or marriage problems
• Infidelity
• Career dissatisfaction
• Work-Life-Family conflict
• Divorce
• Single parenting
• Lack of social support
• Infertility
• Trauma
• Domestic violence
• Sex and intimacy problems
• Stress management
• Anger management
• Depression
• Anxiety
• Substance abuse

How Men’s Counselling Works

To rise above life’s challenges and struggles, we must first identify where the problem lies. Due to traditional norms, men are stereotypically expected to be strong, tough and less emotionally vulnerable. This forces men to suppress their emotions and push their problems away instead of learning to manage them effectively. Yet, whether society believes it or not, men deal with many distressing issues – even when they do not show it. Counselling for men provides you with a safe space to talk about the struggles that you are facing. Even if you feel like you have nobody to turn to in times of distress, our therapists are always here for you.

Having someone you can talk to without feeling judged is always essential. Counselling for men gives you an opportunity to do just that. Speaking freely about your struggles will allow you and your therapist to work through your problems, reframe your negative thoughts and emotions, and learn new and healthy ways to cope with them.

At Incontact, our experienced therapists have worked with a wide range of issues faced explicitly by men, and they can provide you with a supportive and safe environment which encourages positive thinking, self-reflection and healthy coping mechanisms. Our therapists are always ready to be the listening ear we sometimes need and guide you towards overcoming adversities and achieving your goals. Men’s counselling can help you deal with difficulties better, allowing you to feel more confident, have greater self-control and be at peace with your life.

Additional Services

1) Couples Counselling

It is normal for married and unmarried couples to encounter numerous obstacles throughout their relationship. Relationships are only smooth sailing some of the time. Extensively trained in the Gottman method, a proven and tested approach to couples therapy, our psychotherapists can help you and your partner work through any resentments and manage conflicts, and eventually reignite the respect and admiration that the two of you had for each other.

2) Family Counselling

Family is a crucial source of support, security, and guidance. However, problems in the family can affect the family’s mental health and functioning. At Incontact, our family psychotherapists work with families to break communication barriers. We aim to create a better home environment for your family.

3) Depression Counselling

Depression is a severe mental illness affecting how we think, feel and deal with daily activities. At Incontact, we deal with a wide range of issues that people with depression face, and we use different approaches to tackle these issues based on our client’s specific needs. Everyone is different, and we are here to provide unique counselling plans that best suit you.

4) Anxiety Counselling

Everyone feels anxious sometimes, and we worry about many things in life. However, excessive anxiety that interferes with daily activities can indicate an anxiety disorder. At Incontact, we provide counselling and therapy services that can effectively tackle and manage your anxiety by implementing intervention programmes specially designed for each client.