Men’s Counselling Service: Book an Appointment
Traditional gender norms have forced society, including men themselves, to believe that they are not allowed to express any form of emotional pain or suffering. Instead, they are always told to “man-up” and suppress or trivialise their struggles. Society has highly raved the idea that a “real man” has to be stoic, tough and fearless all the time. This toxic masculinity has led many men to believe that therapy is construed as a sign of weakness. As a result, many men choose to suffer in silence instead of seeking help, making their problems grow even bigger. If you are one of many who are trapped in this unhealthy thinking, you may start to feel increasingly overwhelmed and lonely, or even feel encouraged to develop unhealthy coping mechanisms to deal with the problems you are facing.
Men’s lives may be packed with a mixture of family responsibilities, career aspirations and personal goals that may be conflicting with one another, causing a great deal of stress, anxiety and/or depression. In a study by researchers at the Institute of Mental Health (IMH) in 2019, they found that men are simply not coming forward to get diagnosed or discussing their struggles enough due to traditional norms.
Issues faced by Men
As a man, there may be several issues that you may be struggling with, whether or not you express them out loud. Some of these issues may include:
- Relationship or marriage problems
- Career dissatisfaction
- Work-Life-Family conflict
- Single parenting
- Lack of social support
- Domestic violence
- Sex and intimacy problems
- Stress management
- Anger management
- Substance abuse
How Men’s Counselling Works
In order to rise above the challenges and struggles that life brings, we must first be able to identify where the problem lies. Due to traditional norms, men are stereotypically expected to be strong, less emotionally vulnerable and tough. This forces men to suppress their emotions and push their problems away, instead of learning how to manage them effectively. Whether society believes it or not, men deal with a great deal of distressing issues – even when they do not show it. Counselling for men provides you with a safe space to talk about the struggles that you are facing. Even if you feel like you have nobody to turn to in times of distress, our therapists are always here for you.
It is always important to have someone whom you can talk to without feeling like you are being judged. Counselling for men gives you an opportunity to do just that. Being able to speak freely about your struggles will allow you and your therapist to work through your problems, reframe your negative thoughts and emotions, and learn new and healthy ways to cope with them.
At Incontact, our experienced therapists have worked with a wide range of issues specifically faced by men, and they can provide you with a supportive and safe environment which encourages positive thinking, self-reflection and healthy coping mechanisms. Our therapists are always ready to be the listening ear that we all sometimes need, and to guide you towards overcoming adversities and achieving your goals. Men’s counselling can help you deal with difficulties better, allowing you to feel more confident, have greater self-control and be at peace with your life.
- Couples Counselling
It is normal for couples, both married and unmarried, to encounter numerous obstacles throughout their relationship. Relationships are not smooth sailing all the time. Extensively trained in the Gottman method, a proven and tested approach to couples therapy, our psychotherapists can help you and your partner work through any resentments and manage conflicts, and eventually reignite the respect and admiration that the two of you had for each other.
- Family Counselling
Family is a crucial source of support, security and guidance. Problems in the family can affect various aspects of all family members’ lives, and disrupt the family’s mental health and functioning. At Incontact, our family psychotherapists work with families to help break communication barriers – the root cause of conflicts. We aim to proactively heal and strengthen the relationship between family members, improve communication and conflict management to create a better home environment for your family.
- Depression Counselling
Depression is a serious mental illness that affects the way we think, feel and deal with daily activities. At Incontact, we deal with a wide range of issues that people with depression face, and we use different approaches to tackle these issues based on our clients’ specific needs. Everyone is different, and we are here to provide unique counselling plans that best suit you.
- Anxiety Counselling
Everyone feels anxious sometimes and we worry about many things in life. However, excessive anxiety that interferes with daily activities can be a sign of an anxiety disorder. At Incontact, we provide counselling and therapy services that can effectively tackle and manage your anxiety by implementing intervention programmes that are specially designed for each of our clients.
Frequently Asked Questions
Q: When should I seek help?
A: There are a few symptoms that tell us that we are struggling. If you or someone you know is experiencing many of the symptoms listed below, consult a mental health professional as soon as you can. Book an appointment with us for either an online or in-person counselling session. These symptoms may include:
- Feelings of hopelessness in life
- Loss of interest in activities (even those that were once pleasurable)
- Increased fatigue
- Changes in sleep patterns including insomnia and hypersomnia
- Feeling irritable
- Changes in appetite and weight
- Uncontrollable emotions
- Having suicidal thoughts and ideations
Q: How long do I need to go for counselling?
A: There is no fixed timeline for counselling. The duration and frequency of counselling sessions is highly dependent on you as an individual, the struggles that you are dealing with, and the goals that you have set for yourself. Some issues can be resolved within a few sessions, while others may need a longer time to resolve. You can continue counselling until you feel comfortable and confident in managing your thoughts, emotions and problems effectively on your own. However long the duration, time spent on self-care and taking care of your mental health is always time well spent.