Marital Counselling

Tackling all the tough parts of married life from financial issues to infidelity is now made easy through Marital Counselling in Singapore, where we help you rebuild trust with one another and communicate in a way that both parties feel understood.

What is Marital Counselling?

Marriage may not always be smooth sailing. Married couples often face conflicts that arise due to varying beliefs or differing expectations for their relationship, leading to marital stress. This can cause conflict and distance between you and your partner.

Marital counselling provides you and your spouse with a safe and conducive space to communicate your thoughts and emotions effectively, allowing you to understand your spouse better.

In marital counselling, our therapists will make use of interventions suited to help couples like the Gottman Method Couples Therapy.

Benefits of Marital Counselling

Marital counselling is beneficial for couples who wish to work on their marriage. By giving you an opportunity to identify and understand the issues and conflicts faced in your marriage, counselling allows you to improve the relationship that you and your spouse share by working through these issues and reasons for conflict.

With open and effective communication, there is ample opportunity for you and your spouse to reconnect by rebuilding trust and acceptance for each other. Subsequently, this enables you and your spouse to increase mutual support for each other as well as increase your physical and emotional intimacy.

Outside of relationship conflicts, marriage therapy provides you and your partner an opportunity to learn new things about each other and improve your relationship. It is common for intimacy to lessen over time as partners get more familiar with each other. Marriage therapy helps you and your partner reignite that spark that drew you together in the first place and rejuvenate your relationship.

Why Choose Incontact Marital Counselling in Singapore

Extensively trained in the Gottman method, a proven and tested approach to couples therapy, our SAC certified psychotherapists can help you and your partner work through any resentments and manage conflicts. Eventually, we aim to reignite the respect and admiration that the two of you had for each other.

Marital counselling in Singapore may be scary to think about. However, at Incontact, our therapists are trained professionals that can help you overcome your negative communication patterns and explore solutions that work for you based on your marriage’s strengths and weaknesses. Our therapists have vast experience in helping married couples find their way out of the many different conflicts faced. Recognising that every marriage is unique, our therapists adapt different counselling plans and approaches to best fit you and your spouse’s needs and interests.

Common Issues We Address

Every couple is faced with their own unique set of problems. However, many of these issues stem from similar root causes which may include:

Infidelity

Unfaithfulness or infidelity is a problem that can happen in many relationships. Although it is looked down upon in society, cheating is still a rather common problem that many couples face. Extramarital affairs can happen both online and in-person, where one shares an emotional, physical and/or sexual attraction or relationship with someone outside of their spouse. Apart from causing one’s spouse to feel a strong sense of betrayal, infidelity also destroys the trust that may have taken a lot of time and effort to build in the marriage. An absence of trust will subsequently bring a plethora of other relationship issues.

Emotional Dissatisfaction or Lack of Love, Attention and Affection

Getting too comfortable in the marriage may cause us to put in lesser effort into the marriage than our partner would prefer, especially for couples who have shared many years of marriage together. This often causes our partner to feel unloved and upset, resulting in conflict. Not giving your partner enough love and attention not only affects the intimacy shared between you and them, but can also make them feel insecure and doubtful. Thus, it is important for both parties to be consistent in ensuring that their partner feels loved and appreciated, regardless of how long you have been together.

Communication Problems

Sometimes, we assume that our partner will be able to read our mind. Having been together for so long, we expect them to be able to anticipate or understand our thoughts and emotions without us having to explicitly communicate it to them. This is more common in longstanding marriages – there is an expectation of being able to understand each other’s intricacies and quirks. When our partners invariably fail to predict our wishes, conflicts might arise and we often feel disappointed, angry or unloved. Not being able to be honest and open with our partners is a very real problem that can snowball into other larger conflicts and misunderstandings in the marriage.

Financial Issues

Marriages can be strained very easily over financial problems. Money plays a large role in all our lives, and this is doubly so when there is a family to support. At the same time, money is a highly sensitive issue that needs to be discussed with care and consideration for each party’s needs and wishes. If the family’s finances are not managed and planned out properly, monetary issues can surface which may cause conflict and misunderstanding. These problems can be worsened if trust and effective communication between partners are lacking.

Sexual Differences

Differences in sex drive between spouses is also a common cause of conflict among married couples. While physical intimacy has its importance in every relationship, each individual has their own preferences and desires. In many cases, when one partner’s needs are met, the other feels rejected, unheard and ignored. When couples are unable to work through these differences and find common ground, frequent arguments regarding this issue of sex and intimacy will surface repeatedly and strain the marriage.

Unrealistic Expectations

Occasionally fantasising about having certain unattainable things in life or wishing their spouse acted differently is perfectly normal for most people. However, this becomes a problem when one acts on these fantasies of the perfect partner and imposes their desires on their existing partner, expecting them to change themselves to fit these expectations. This mismatch in desires and expectations, when not agreed upon by both partners or too unreasonable, can cause tension and conflicts in the marriage.

Trust Issues

Trust is a vital yet extremely fragile component of every relationship. Trust issues can easily emerge when there is a lack of communication and transparency between partners. Not trusting your spouse might cause you to engage in destructive habits such as frequently checking your partner’s phone, subjecting them to wild accusations, doubting them, and feeling constantly or excessively jealous. These habits can give rise to a highly unhealthy and unhappy relationship.

It is completely normal for married couples to encounter some form of misunderstanding or disagreement during their years of marriage. This can cause conflict and distance between you and your partner. While some couples are able to resolve their differences and marital problems on their own, others might require additional help. If you feel like a professional hand might help your marriage, give us a call at 91348147 or fill out the Contact Us form to book an appointment now.

Our Marital Counselling Approach

The main therapeutic modality employed by our counsellors is the Gottman Method Couples Therapy, which is proven to be effective by outcome research. Our therapists also use Prepare/Enrich, Family Systems Therapy and Internal Family Systems in marital counselling.

In short, the goals of the Gottman Method include increasing closeness and friendship behaviours, addressing conflict productively, and building a life of shared meaning together. Couples learn what their patterns of disagreement are like in order to facilitate positive interactions and resolve past wounds. The Gottman Method involves customising principles from the research to each couple’s particular patterns and challenges.

Our therapists aim to restore the respect and trust that the two of you have for each other in this manner, so that you can leave Incontact with a happy relationship of mutual affection and assurance.

Confidentiality Assurance

At Incontact Counselling and Training, we prioritise the confidentiality and privacy of our clients above all else.

Our team comprises counsellors and employees who have each signed legally binding confidentiality clauses, affirming their commitment to upholding the strictest standards of confidentiality. We handle all client information with the utmost care, ensuring it is kept secure and private at all times.

We operate under the principle of non-disclosure, meaning that unless required by law or in cases where there is a severe risk of harm, we do not share client information with third parties without explicit consent.

Every interaction and communication with our clients is conducted privately and confidentially, fostering an environment of trust and respect. Moreover, we continuously review and enhance our confidentiality policies and procedures to ensure they align with the highest industry standards. Your privacy is paramount to us, and you can rest assured that your information is safe with Incontact Counselling and Training.

How to Get Started

Incontact is very experienced with marital counselling in Singapore. If you and your spouse are facing issues which you find hard to resolve on your own, get in touch with our therapists who can help you. Book an appointment for either an online or in-person counselling session through the Contact Us form today.

Professional Affiliations and Certifications

Our counsellors are accredited by the Singapore Association for Counselling (SAC). Our counsellors are also trained in therapeutic approaches specifically catered to marriage counselling, such as Gottman Method Couples Therapy.