Scientifically proven therapy for lasting relationships
The Gottman Method Couple Therapy is a structured, goal-oriented approach to couple therapy. Developed by Dr. John Gottman, it is backed by over 40 years of research with thousands of couples.
Known for its low relapse rate, the Gottman Method begins with a thorough assessment of the couple’s relationship, followed by evidence-based techniques that help partners deepen their understanding of what truly makes relationships thrive.
Key relationship challenges addressed
- Emotional distancing and disconnection
- Frequent conflict and arguments
- Poor communication
- Infidelity and rebuilding trust
- Differences in parenting styles
- Financial stress and disagreements
- Lack of intimacy and affection
- Navigating major life transitions
Core principles of the Gottman Method
Build love maps
Understand your partner’s inner world, joys, fears, and dreams.
Share fondness and admiration
Strengthen appreciation and respect to nurture intimacy.
Turn towards instead of away
Recognize and respond to bids for emotional connection.
Develop a positive perspective
Cultivate an optimistic approach to resolving conflicts.
Manage conflict
Learn to navigate solvable and perpetual disagreements constructively.
Make life dreams come true
Create an environment where both partners’ aspirations are valued.
Create shared meaning
Build a relationship based on shared values and vision.
Instill trust
Establish a deep sense of reliability and emotional safety.
Develop commitment
Commit to growing and strengthening the relationship long-term.
How Gottman Couple Therapy works at Incontact
Comprehensive assessment
The therapy begins with an initial couple’s session, followed by individual sessions to understand each partner’s history, perspectives, and relationship dynamics.
Personalized relationship roadmap
Using assessment insights, our Gottman Method trained therapist develops a customised therapy plan, focusing on key areas for improvement.
Practical interventions & skill-building
Couples engage in guided exercises and research-backed interventions to enhance communication, conflict resolution, and emotional connection.
Ongoing support & progress tracking
Sessions are designed to help couples practice new skills, strengthen their bond, and monitor progress over time.
Sustaining relationship growth
Therapy equips couples with lifelong strategies to maintain a healthy, fulfilling partnership beyond the sessions.
Instead of trying to eliminate conflict, the Gottman Method shows couples ways to deal with problems and conflicts in a positive way. Not all conflicts have a solution. But, with the right approach, even challenges can bring couples closer, deepening their bond and building a stronger, more resilient relationship.
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FAQ
The Gottman Method is a research-based approach to couples therapy that helps partners strengthen their relationship, improve communication, and navigate conflicts effectively.
Unlike other approaches, the Gottman Method is backed by over 40 years of research and uses structured, evidence-based techniques with a focus on long-term relationship success.
The therapy is beneficial for couples at any stage—whether dating, engaged, newly married, or in a long-term relationship—who want to improve their connection and resolve conflicts constructively.
Yes, our therapists have undergone specialised training in the Gottman Method and use its evidence-based techniques to help couples build stronger, healthier relationships.
It can help with frequent arguments, poor communication, emotional distance, trust issues, infidelity, parenting challenges, and other relationship concerns.
Therapy typically starts with an assessment phase, including joint and individual sessions, followed by tailored interventions based on the couple’s unique needs.
The duration varies based on the couple's goals and challenges, but many couples start seeing improvements within a few sessions.
While most sessions are attended together, individual sessions are also conducted during the assessment phase to gain deeper insights into each partner’s perspective.
Yes, the method is designed to help couples reconnect and rebuild their relationship, even if they feel disconnected or on the verge of separation.
Absolutely. The Gottman Method is inclusive and has been shown to be effective for couples of all backgrounds and orientations.
